But sometimes things move so slowly that it's hard to recognize whether there's progress at all.
I've been feeling a little impatient of late. It just seems like my Little Miss is never going to get there. I know that isn't true, of course. But part of me wonders just how far her 47 chromosomes of stubborn may take her.
I know to expect her to do everything, but to expect it to take longer for her to get there. I know it, I do. But sometimes it just feels like it's taking forever.
There is such a range for development in the gross motor department. I see kids all the time (fellow 47ers) who have been doing so much more than Cora for quite some time. Kids who are walking, who've been crawling and pulling to stand for months, who are cruising around furniture and using push-toys.
But this girl really doesn't want to do it. In the past few weeks she has actually started voluntarily bending her knees while being held in a standing position or during the very limited time that she deigns to actually stand holding onto something. I encourage this all the time since this girl loves to dance. Anytime I say "dance" she starts bopping her head up and down, and if she's standing, she'll slightly bend her little legs, snapping them back into locked position. (The really cute part is that she will look down at her knees when she does this.) It's obvious that it's hard for her to do. She can pull to stand when she's sitting on a bench (taped together phone books and pulling up onto a weighted plastic bin), but she really doesn't like to. She's also starting to move forward onto one knee (with the other leg splayed out to the side) while sitting, especially if, like on the bed, she can't easily butt-scoot to where she wants to go.
Still, trying to get her to be on hands and knees is like pulling teeth. Sometimes she'll let us maneuver her little limbs, but then she'll yell and throw herself forward onto her belly, immediately pushing herself up to sit again. If we try and help her "walk", she just keeps her knees rigid and fights the whole time.
I've totally been slacking on working with her on it, since she hates it so. I agree with her therapist who thinks that forcing her to do exercises that she hates will just backfire on us, causing her to refuse them even more. So I've backed off a bit, hoping that she may decide to move forward on her own. I'm just not sure if that's true.
So today I thought I'd try again and worked her a little harder. She was not happy with it, but eventually did enough stand-ups and sit-downs from her bench to satisfy me. Then I took her on the stairs and moved her little knees up to the next step, encouraging her to reach above and pull herself forward. Again, not super successful. But I guess I will keep up with it for a few minutes a day at least, and see if she starts to make any progress.
For now, she is ever-so-slowly scooting on her little bum across the floor. That is, if I'm not in arm's reach. Otherwise she just whines for me to help her. She's learned how to move across hard wood with shorts on (something that was challenging since she couldn't just slide across the floor) and now she does a little hop, one leg forward, one leg out, pulling with her hands. But she's not moving very quickly.
The actual slow movement isn't so bad, since it still makes it a little easier to take care of her. I guess I'm just feeling impatient and wanting her to make progress. And I want her to want to do these things. I want her to want to stand up. I want her to be willing to bend her knees enough that she can develop some strength in those weak little legs.
Heck, she'll probably start walking tomorrow (ha ha!) just to show me up.
Parents of other kids with low tone: Do you push and push your child despite serious resistance? Any tricks that worked for you? Any ideas on how to make bending knees fun (in addition to dancing)?
|In her favorite position of all: sitting still!|